Skip to main content
LILY DIA

How much are you supposed to spend on an engagement ring?

Quick answer

There is no rule. The three months' salary line is a 1930s De Beers advertising campaign, not a tradition. Spend what suits your finances. The most useful number in Australia is what most couples actually pay, which sits broadly around $1,500 to $5,000 depending on stone choice and setting, with lab-grown diamonds and moissanite stretching that budget the furthest.

Where the "supposed to" rule comes from

The idea that you are supposed to spend a set amount comes from De Beers advertising, not from any tradition. The campaign started in the 1930s with one month's salary, then grew to two and eventually three months in later decades. It was a line written to sell diamonds, and no etiquette rule backs it. If a partner or relative quotes the three months figure, they are quoting a slogan.

Read the full story behind the 3-month salary rule

What Australian couples actually spend

The most useful benchmark is what other couples pay, and in Australia that varies widely with the centre stone. A lab-grown diamond or moissanite centre brings a well-made ring into the low thousands, while a natural diamond of the same size costs several times more. Set your number from your own savings and priorities, then choose the stone type that fits it.

See the full engagement ring cost guide with current AUD prices

Next step

Browse engagement rings

Compare engagement rings across cuts, stones, settings and metals on a real budget.

Browse engagement rings

Still curious

Have a question we haven't answered?

Send us a note. We reply to every enquiry, usually within one business day.

Contact the studio